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Prolonged Grief Disorder
Grief may remain painful for a long time. This diagnosis concerns a persistent pattern that substantially restricts life after a death.
What is prolonged grief disorder?
Prolonged grief disorder involves persistent longing for, or preoccupation with, someone who has died, together with other symptoms that cause substantial distress or interference. The response exceeds what would be expected within the person’s cultural, social, or religious context.
For adults, the death occurred at least 12 months earlier; for children and adolescents, at least six months earlier. Time alone does not determine the diagnosis. There is no deadline for caring about or missing someone.
What might someone experience?
The pattern may include:
- Difficulty accepting that the person has died.
- Feeling that part of your identity has been lost.
- Intense emotional pain, loneliness, or numbness.
- Avoiding reminders or becoming unable to engage with life beyond the loss.
- Feeling that life has little meaning.
Anniversaries and reminders may bring waves of grief in many people. The assessment looks at the broader pattern and how daily life is affected.
What may increase vulnerability?
Circumstances around the loss: A sudden or violent death, the loss of a very close relationship, limited support, and other mental health difficulties may complicate grieving. The circumstances around the death may add trauma, guilt, or unanswered questions.
None of these factors means someone will necessarily develop the disorder. The person’s relationship, community, and ways of mourning deserve attention.
How is it assessed?
Grief and related difficulties: Your provider asks about the loss, the symptoms that remain most difficult, and how you are managing daily activities and relationships. They also consider depression, PTSD, sleep problems, substance use, and safety.
Support before the time threshold: You can seek grief support before the diagnostic time threshold. Waiting until a diagnosis is possible is not a requirement for care.
What treatment helps?
Grief-focused psychotherapy: Grief-focused psychotherapy helps people live with the reality of the death while rebuilding a life that has room for connection and meaning. Treatment may work with avoidance, painful reminders, and the changes in roles and identity that follow a loss.
Connection and other treatments: The aim is not to erase the relationship or require you to “move on.” Support groups may offer connection, though they serve a different role from individualized treatment. Medication may help co-occurring depression or anxiety; it is not a stand-alone treatment for the core grief pattern.
Preparing for support
What you want help with: Consider what you most want help with: getting through a particular part of the day, returning to relationships, handling reminders, or making decisions that have felt impossible. You do not have to tell the entire story in one visit.
Ask whether a therapist has training in grief-focused treatment and how they incorporate cultural or spiritual practices. If thoughts of joining the person who died become thoughts of acting on self-harm, or you feel unsafe, call 911 or go to the nearest emergency department.
About this information
Educational handout; does not replace your prescription or your provider’s recommendations.